tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post1244363044641463798..comments2024-03-29T08:31:54.659+00:00Comments on Penniless Parenting: Autism, ABA Therapy, and My Next Step?Penniless Parentinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17671140279531925880noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-494651253166460092016-08-11T13:15:30.362+00:002016-08-11T13:15:30.362+00:00Many thanks for this. You mentioned Singapore in y...Many thanks for this. You mentioned Singapore in your post so I assume you're currently here as well; can you please provide the name of the ABA clinic you're using? My 3 year old son was diagnosed with HFA and I'm considering floortime and/or ABA as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-11130412749486261932016-07-05T14:34:59.111+00:002016-07-05T14:34:59.111+00:00My daughter of 10 years old was diagnosed with ASD... My daughter of 10 years old was diagnosed with ASD at the age of 4. Her problem of delayed speech development, social interaction avoidance, physical muscle weakness surfaced at the age around 12 months old. When my child was 12 months old, she received her first professional service: physiotherapy. The physiotherapist was not an ABA therapist, but she used the ABA method: she passed the ball protectorofangelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16959138007190741392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-7298637018352956232016-03-22T21:44:16.736+00:002016-03-22T21:44:16.736+00:00Spot on. My ASD child was once labelled 'surl...Spot on. My ASD child was once labelled 'surly' and no teacher saw any potential in her. Today she is a law student doing well in her studies. But her journey has been a hard slog. Once she reached her teens she became increasingly aware that she was different and this in turn lead to feelings of depression and anxiety. We obtained the diagnosis when she was 15. From this point we Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-16933776310020433502016-03-16T03:54:18.842+00:002016-03-16T03:54:18.842+00:00I have followed your blog from time to time and ta...I have followed your blog from time to time and taken measures of great advice when it was helpful. Yes I understand your concern with ABA but I think you have a grave misunderstanding of what the therapy is actually about. I am not an advocate for ABA as since Autism is a condition that is genetic and contains over 250 possible combinations and mixtures every autistic child is unique and mr.j05huahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07602944953773876280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-82750760067355094702016-03-15T18:36:45.842+00:002016-03-15T18:36:45.842+00:00I can't help but wonder if most kids feel diff...I can't help but wonder if most kids feel different than others. I think if asked most would say they do. This is not to question your son's diagnosis, but is an observation I have made.Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06202514109858932036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-55223332809533360272016-03-15T07:52:30.458+00:002016-03-15T07:52:30.458+00:00High Functioning Autism can be managed and one can...High Functioning Autism can be managed and one can succeed with it and manage it. Most important is education and overcoming obstacles. He needs a disability teacher and to be encouraged to read and advance in many languages. As one with Aspergers myself, I taught myself how to study (at age 20) and how to overcome my genetic inborn barriers. "Ike" can't be expected to do that so heAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-15524768605438997442016-03-14T20:44:57.924+00:002016-03-14T20:44:57.924+00:00Have you read the book mother warriors by jenny mc...Have you read the book mother warriors by jenny mccarthy? It gives a great insight to parents experiences with various therapies.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09814074881099915924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-49788292804650180332016-03-14T20:37:09.195+00:002016-03-14T20:37:09.195+00:00Same commenter as before: There are 1000 therapies...Same commenter as before: There are 1000 therapies for autism. It is true that behaviorally based approaches have more evidence than a lot of others. That doesn't mean ABA is awesome. It means some of the other stuff is snake oil. I don't think Floortime is snake oil, by the way, but I don't think the research is there yet. <br /><br />things that DID help: OT, though OT is not the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-80470720548062200712016-03-14T20:29:05.704+00:002016-03-14T20:29:05.704+00:00I am autistic (what used to be called Aspergers) a...I am autistic (what used to be called Aspergers) and so is my son (language delayed type). <br /><br />ABA is NOT a monolithic approach and this is why I dislike flat "ABA is bad, because Lovaas was abusive" answers. ABA is a SET of behaviorally based approaches. We also use behaviorism when we parent our NT kids: we reward/reinforce desired behaviors and discourage bad ones. <br /><brAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-26876457918843162522016-03-14T19:07:48.949+00:002016-03-14T19:07:48.949+00:00Hi, I briefly read the comments you have had, and ...Hi, I briefly read the comments you have had, and am kind of surprised that so many of them lean toward this therapy or that. We also homeschool, and if you must label our style, we started out many moons ago as school at home, and now, based on our kids different needs, we are pretty much radical unschoolers. My younger child once upon a time (like 7ish years ago) had a diagnosis of PDD-NOS, TheAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04734708677908021159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-40803466867333479642016-03-14T14:33:45.848+00:002016-03-14T14:33:45.848+00:00Do not define your child based on a diagnosis. my ...Do not define your child based on a diagnosis. my son had HFA and is fully funcioning. He went to a mainstream school and is currently in his 3 year college. He is still slightly socially awkward and feels bad that he doesnt have close friends. ABA was not for him as he was too bright for it but floortime might have been better. i mainly worked hard on social skills Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-54004670454063588662016-03-14T12:57:29.300+00:002016-03-14T12:57:29.300+00:00Ok, since you and I are both expats with autistic ...Ok, since you and I are both expats with autistic kids... one thing that helped me a LOT with my ASD/SPD daughter was the parenting posting on A Life Overseas blog (you can search by topic). They deal with Third Culture Kids (how to parent, nurture, protect, etc). What really struck me was that when we are talking about kids who have a different culture from their parents (because of where they Ashleyhttp://www.kellersc23.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-13886474653991641892016-03-14T03:56:25.152+00:002016-03-14T03:56:25.152+00:00I have a son with severe Autism and The Son-Rise p...I have a son with severe Autism and The Son-Rise program helped us with all of the above goals you have for your son. It's much more child-centered and respectful than most ABA programs. www.son-rise.org They offer scholarships! It also gave me tools to be a better parent to ALL of my kids. The best part is that parents are in charge of the program so there's no arguing with Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-9856341047424966472016-03-14T02:37:44.741+00:002016-03-14T02:37:44.741+00:00You might want to look into the Floortime model. You might want to look into the Floortime model. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-51577813953812901702016-03-14T01:10:51.099+00:002016-03-14T01:10:51.099+00:00Followed for a while, never commented. As a nurse...Followed for a while, never commented. As a nurse and someone who is most likely on spectrum, I would say try it! What do you have to lose? If you don't like something they do you can always stop. However your son's brain will never again have the same neuroplasticity as it does now so the earlier you start the better. If it can help him relate to other kids, learn social skills, andBeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05580684885662820293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-33489560938988276072016-03-13T23:07:48.957+00:002016-03-13T23:07:48.957+00:00If your son is High Functioning Autistic or Asperg...If your son is High Functioning Autistic or Asperger's, ABA doesn't really work or not at all. You will need CB therapy to deal with the anxiety. We wasted many years on ABA. ABA if done properly is a teaching method, punishment is never to be used. It's always positive. One of the main factors with Autism besides communication is anxiety and control, therapy is used to get that underAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06215305563782357426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-67032119261665177992016-03-13T21:26:12.554+00:002016-03-13T21:26:12.554+00:00Have you heard of Floortime? It's also been pr...Have you heard of Floortime? It's also been proven effective, and it seems to be more up your alley. There are therapists in your country who provide it, although I don't know if they can be hard to get into. (The ones I know of are...) Floor time is a therapy model developed by Dr. Stanley Greenspan. His website offers training courses geared to both therapists and parents; they're Mirinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-12948249487576353492016-03-13T21:04:09.672+00:002016-03-13T21:04:09.672+00:00Hi i recomend checking out the blog suburban autis...Hi i recomend checking out the blog suburban autistics and also respectfully connected ther are alot of writing on unschooling autistic children and also some interesting viewpoints on aba therapy. Hope this helps :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-24171178872824099942016-03-13T20:24:47.744+00:002016-03-13T20:24:47.744+00:00Hi, I've a brother-in-law with high-functionin...Hi, I've a brother-in-law with high-functioning autism and also have an MEd in how to teach children with this neuro-atypicality and what I would say is that first and foremost people are individuals and all the people around Ike every day will have a better idea about what works for him rather than a set intervention plan. It sounds like you are already doing really well !Mrs Shoestringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14632135275029167687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-81579128441098385102016-03-13T20:16:01.590+00:002016-03-13T20:16:01.590+00:00FloortimeFloortimeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-82579089957216675822016-03-13T19:29:19.265+00:002016-03-13T19:29:19.265+00:00Mothers are the first line of offence and defense....Mothers are the first line of offence and defense. Read all you can and ask the therapist and psychologist about strategies they use and adapt them in your everyday life.Pay attention to details and above all,relax! The children especially those with social problems are very sensitive to the "alarm" signals. You will be his indicator of success.Please keep in mind that what you think issomeone who careshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17846163786486460424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1300660817354328186.post-20093436436174193102016-03-13T19:17:54.411+00:002016-03-13T19:17:54.411+00:00Hi Penny,
I've been an avid follower of your b...Hi Penny,<br />I've been an avid follower of your blog for many years and have never commented until now. I had to respond to your query since I really understand your position. I have a nine year old daughter with the same diagnosis as Ike. She also has severe adHD and had significant behavioural concerns. For hee safety and the safety of our family, against my initial beliefs we had to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com