Other than getting married and having kids, getting divorced is basically one of the biggest and most drastic changes in people's lives, and it can be completely overwhelming. One of the ways to reduce the stress and worry is to be more prepared. Hopefully, this post will help reassure you so you know what you can expect when filing for divorce.
Separation is not a decision made on a whim, with many factors to consider. Divorce is a lengthy process that can take up to a year to be finalized.
A trial separation is usually recommended for couples considering divorce. This is a great way to sort through negative emotions before deciding divorce is the only option. You and your partner can look at your relationship differently; once your anger is removed, you can think clearly.
Assuming you have decided to file for divorce, here's what you can expect in the near future.
Paperwork
When filing for divorce, the first step is to file a legal petition asking the court to dissolve the marriage. It would be wise to contact a divorce attorney to ensure you are filing the proper papers.
A fault divorce and a no-fault divorce are two types of divorce. A no-fault divorce is when a couple does not wish to disclose the reasons for separation. On the other spectrum, a fault divorce should be filed when a person accepts responsibility (in cases of adultery).
Your Life Is About To Change
Other than the fact that you will be single again, life is about to change for you and your family. Many cases of divorce can lead to a happier life as you will be re-invigorated and feel inspired to get into better shape (physically and mentally).
Independence is a significant side effect of legal separation. Without having a partner to rely on, you will learn to depend on yourself more. You will find yourself again and discover how you have changed and evolved throughout your marriage.
You will experience a roller-coaster of emotions before settling into the new you. Take some time to rediscover your strengths and get to know you "behind the scenes" without all the theatrics.
Prepare yourself for any twists and turns you may encounter in your newfound freedom. Join a support group and find some new friends who might understand what you are going through.
The Financial Side
You will need to prepare yourself for the financial burden of legal separation. Divorce costs anywhere from $8,400 to $17,500, depending on where you stay and how straightforward your case will be.
Consider setting a new budget to incorporate the extra expenses during this time. You will be asked for your financial records during this time, so getting your documents (tax returns, bank statements, retirement account information, and social security statements) ready can reduce some of your stresses.
The Children
Remember, your divorce is yours, not your children's. Do your best to encourage a relationship between your spouse and children.
You are not the only one dealing with a tough time during a divorce. Children often act out in these situations. Do your best to be patient with your children and remind them that they are loved.
During this trying time, lean on your friends and family for emotional support. Consult a divorce lawyer as early as possible to help you make decisions.
