Keeping Your Relationship Romantic Through the Years: A Brief Guide

Someone I care about closely has a significant anniversary today and this topic feels especially relevant. For some people, like myself, relationships end because they weren't healthy and needed to end. Other people manage to stay together in a loving relationship "until death do us part". (A woman I knew for years just passed away yesterday after 55 years of marriage to her husband with whom she was very close.) And then there are the relationships in between, that don't have significant problems, but couples just... sort of drift apart. That doesn't have to happen. There are ways to keep your relationship strong, vibrant, and healthy for years, even with all the complications that life throws your way. Here are some ideas on how to do that.


Romance is one of the most incredibly important and beautiful elements of any relationship. While it might change shape over the years, it is important to do what you can to keep the romance in your relationship alive and well.

Fortunately, there are plenty of things you can do to help keep your relationship romantic as you and your partner build a life together.

Nurturing Your Relationship

Your relationship is unique. It may be similar to many others and might have traits that are consistent across thousands of other relationships, but the relationship you have right now is as unique and beautiful as any that has ever existed or will ever exist.

So, what is the difference between relationships that fade and ones that last forever?

Well, there is one thing that every successful, happy relationship in history has in common: they were nurtured. Like anything special, relationships take work. They require effort, compassion, and care from everyone involved, and romance is one of the most important tools you and your partner have to care for your relationship.

When you make an effort to be romantic, you show your partner that you care for them. That the love and passion you feel for one another is as alive as ever, and those feelings are exactly what your relationship needs to thrive.

Creating Romance as Your Life Changes

Even when understanding how important romance can be for your relationships, it can be difficult to prioritize romance when the lives you and your partner are leading begin to change in significant ways.

After all, it’s incredibly difficult to create an intimate and romantic atmosphere when you have young children to look after, or you and your partner are working to the bone through difficult financial situations. In short, life is a messy experience to go through, and even more so when you are trying to go through it together with someone else.

So, what can you do to keep creating romance together as your lives change? Well, one of the most important things you can do is make sure you are both communicating with each other.

You would be surprised at how many problems across every aspect of your life could be resolved by a simple, honest conversation. So, be honest and understanding with one another and work together to solve any problems that come up. For example, if you or your partner suffers from erectile dysfunction, a conversation between the two of you might help you to determine that you still want to be intimate with one another and decide to learn how to manage ED with sildenafil tablets or another medical solution.

Romantic Ideas to Try Out

Finally, if you want to be more romantic with your partner but don’t quite know how to get started, there are plenty of little things you could do to get the ball rolling, such as:

  • Surprise them with a candlelit dinner
  • Leave little love notes
  • Go stargazing together
  • Plan an adventure down memory lane
  • Plan a weekend getaway

At the end of the day, you know your partner better than anyone else, and that means you will know how they would like to be romanced. Using some of these tips to get started can be a nice way to get your train of thought moving on how to better incorporate romance into your day-to-day life.

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